Resilient! Just a word but means a lot in life. The Word Web dictionary defines resilient as “recovering readily from adversity, depression, or the like”. Whenever we hear people
tell of their inspiring odyssey, what actually strikes us? What are the thoughts that come to mind? Did they find it easy? Did they encounter setbacks? Probably YES! They encountered diverse challenges from all odds but since they were determined and knew their positions in life, they stood firm, made amendments and moved on to achieve their aims. A lot of people fear setbacks. If that is so, then what is the essence of risk taking in business? The inability to recover from setbacks has lead many to make wrongful decisions that have landed them into a more traumatic situation than before. The world we live in creates depression and all sort of troubles. It is an established fact that the world is not going to get better no matter how much we work on it. If you are blind and deaf to resilience: you care more about the successes of others because to you, it’s impossible to get there too; You limit yourself of your God given potentials. The things that happen to us do not entirely harm us but how we react to them harms us the most. If you are not resilient, you end up becoming victim of such circumstances.
Recounting the story of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-24, indicates an act of being resilient. For the purpose of this piece, emphasis is laid on the verses 18 and 20. The verse 18 reads: “I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, …”. Verse 20: “And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him”. Take note of “I will arise…” and “And he arose…”. The prodigal son’s adventure to an unknown land became a setback for him and his return shows how resilient he was. We must note that the prodigal son did something about his deplorable situation although he had faulted. He didn’t relent but made a decision that earned him his nobility. Don’t stay in that mess for it to destroy you. Unfavourable situations in life have not come to stay. We only permit them to become permanent. Adding on, the story of the unfaithful steward posits a soul who has not recognised the element of resilience in him (Luke 16:3-7). Taking a cyclical look at verse 3, “Then the steward said within himself, what shall I do? For my lord taketh away from me the stewardship: I cannot dig; to beg I am ashamed”, KJV. This portrays his inability to think effectively, positively, embrace change and shun to failure. Then verse 4; “I am resolved what to do, that, when I am put out of the stewardship, they may receive me into their houses”, KJV. What did he do and what happened to him? Sometimes our inability to believe and discover that we can make it even if we lose our positions worsen our situations.
Sometimes, in the course of reaching to our intended goals, problems inevitably crop up. It is up to us to recondition our minds to withstand and overcome those impediments. Your ability to turn things around shows how resilient you are. Champions aren’t those who have won but those who are able to bounce back when they fall. As echoed by Dr.Ben Carson, “the moment we begin to believe we are invincible, we actually become most vulnerable”. Let us not deceive ourselves. The challenges are bound to come but being resilient with the help of God is key to overcoming them. In our life’s journey, we can be thrown down over and over again. At that point in time, it will appears as if there is no aorta of hope anymore. When you find yourself in such a situation, relax, take in breath, take your time and think through the problem as you rely on God for help and the way out. A lot of people have depended on blames, complains and excuses as their insignia. That will mean nothing to the problem. Instead, recondition your mind while trusting God for good. The Lady of the Lamp, Florence Nightingale said “I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuses”. How many excuses have you given so far in the midst of your challenges? Be eager to see beyond moments. Discover and understand your position as well as your purpose in life. By this, you will be able to turn things round for your good. No one can hope to think big and achieve meaningful life without considering and factoring in the issue of setbacks. A writer once said “a life experience of failure is a surprisingly rich source of knowledge”. What have you learnt from your life’s experiences? Know your worth. If you think all is lost, just picture yourself in what you want to be.
The motivational speaker, Les Brown has this to say:
There are sometimes things are not going to go right. Even if you experience defeat or failure, that does not make you a failure. If things are not working out and you are not producing the results you want, that is all! Don’t confuse who you are with the results you produce. Don’t permit things to usual. Assess yourself and the situation. Clear your mind of all the unnecessary lugging baggage that weighs you down. Find out the reasons that will make you strong and to walk by faith and not by sight! Every body is a genius and therefore if you die with your genius by not being resilient (Insert by me), all of us will suffer and the world will be deprived of your genius.
Before you give up to something, consider where you have reached. Don’t be overwhelmed with doubts. Harness your will and move on. If you ever think of giving up, look and consider those in pain and suffering more than you are and yet are not giving up. As you shine, you give other people the opportunity to shine too. So anytime you give up on something, you deny other people the opportunity to excel too. Take full responsibility for your life. You have to work things out for yourself and get help from the right people. Evaluate what you are and expect things to work better for you. It is never too late to amend that hopeless situation. Remember that late cooking does not mean going to bed hungry. Don’t confuse who you are with the results you produce. It’s not over! Who told you it’s not possible! Don’t you have Christ in you? Are you not a vessel prepared for greater works? Are you not an agent of transformation?
We must understand that God has reposited in us this innate quality being resilience that helps us to bounce back and move on in life. It is not just in some of us. It’s in everyone. The onus is on us to tap into this innate quality and act accordingly. Use your resilient wheel in times of crisis. As we develop a sense of being resilient, I believe we will never again have to worry about any skeletons in our closet as we have the chance to recuperate. “Resilient is the bridge over troubled waters”.
“The strongest substance that exists is not the steel or diamond. It is the resilient soul and a heart that has used golden thread to seal up the wounds caused by adversity”.